As someone who’s worked in restaurants since he was a teen, Hynam-Smith has had his own struggles with drinking to cope with toxic work environments brought on, in part, by a professional kitchen’s brigade hierarchy created to “break” a person.
“There’s a reason you do it in the military. Why the (hell) are we doing it in this industry?” Hynam-Smith said. “Why are we doing this in a community business that employs community people? Why are we taking that practice that we use to prepare people for war? Why are we using that in the mainstream and ruining people’s lives?”
The pandemic, he added, brought industry issues to the fore as repeated lockdowns, lost income and, in some cases, destroyed livelihoods piled even more on an already overtaxed workforce.
“When you’re forced to stop and you have to battle through possibly losing everything, watching what’s happening in the industry and to the people in it, laying off staff — all of this takes a deep toll,” Hynam-Smith said. “I’ve spoken to people having trouble getting out of bed. I’ve received calls from people who are having suicidal thoughts. I’ve received phone calls from people who have turned their back on the industry. When that happens, it’s taxing.”
And he’s made a few calls himself in search of similar, he added.
But Be Well Fitness created a place to share what he and others, even those outside the hospitality industry, are going through “in the rawest form.” Those runs, rides and dunks, scheduled or impromptu, offered a chance to converse about issues someone may not have talked about before — and become healthier mentally and physically in the process, Hynam-Smith explained.
“Being forced to stop and look around, despite being in a very dark place myself at the time — and I’m still working through things and will be for some time — we need to make it more acceptable for people to get therapy and not feel shame for getting help.”
As the group continues to grow, Hynam-Smith hopes to create something more formal with connections to therapists, life coaches and other industry advocacy groups. In the meantime, there are cold water dips and conversation — and no pressure for anyone who shows up to do either until they’re ready.
“With Be Well, we want people to feel as though they have somewhere to go, with other people take a healthier direction, surround themselves with like-minded people and where they can reach out and get the help they need or the help finding the help they need,” he said.
“It’s going through something with other people who are going through it, too, and knowing you’re not being judged and you’re safe.”